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I#39;d almost like to have kids for this reason.
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Define slap/badly.
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QUOTE(Snuff #064; Aug 16 2006, 08#58;21 PM) ?no, but i will spank them when they#39;re being little ######.
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Never. If I get so angry to even consider making contact I walk away for 10 seconds.
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yes. if by quot;your kidsquot; you mean your mom.
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Only when they try to talk to me in a bar. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />
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still too young for beatings/ spankings to have any influence on behavior.My mom used to take her nails and fockin claw them into my arm. Fock I hated that style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />
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I never slapped my son#39;s face, but I never hesitated to spank his bottom when he needed it.
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also, I doubt I ever quot;slapquot; my kids.
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QUOTE(TAS #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;22 PM) Define slap/badly.Do you smack their little focking asses when they misbehave? Do you take the belt to them? Or do you just let it go so they grow up to be spoiled assfaces?
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NEVER, EVER HIT YOUR CHILD. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />
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QUOTE(Brown Eyed Girl #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;25 PM) I never slapped my son#39;s face, but I never hesitated to spank his bottom when he needed it.Uh, BEG? I#39;ve been REALLY naughty lately.... style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":unsure:" border="0" alt="unsure.gif" />
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No kids yet, but I#39;d like to beat the everlovin sh1t out of some of these brats you see running around these days. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />
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QUOTE(jets24 #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;26 PM) NEVER, EVER HIT YOUR CHILD. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />SHAKE #39;em. - Doesn#39;t leave any marks and REALLY messes them up#33; style_emoticons/default/banana.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":banana:" border="0" alt="banana.gif" />
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QUOTE(jets24 #064; Aug 16 2006, 08#58;26 PM) NEVER, EVER HIT YOUR CHILD. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />That#39;s like saying don#39;t beat your wife. style_emoticons/default/blink.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":blink:" border="0" alt="blink.gif" />
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like a red-headed step-child
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QUOTE(Snuff #064; Aug 16 2006, 10#58;26 AM) Do you smack their little focking asses when they misbehave? Do you take the belt to them? Or do you just let it go so they grow up to be spoiled assfaces?Spank, yes. Slap, no. And not everytime they misbehave am I quick on the draw. Punishment fits the crime. Sometimes a little solitude in their room (no t.v., no radio, no nothin#39;, and a stern talking to does the trick) Sometimes the spankin#39;#33;
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QUOTE(wiffleball #064; Aug 16 2006, 04#58;29 PM) SHAKE #39;em. - Doesn#39;t leave any marksNot foolproof because of internal bruising CODECSI
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Nope. I don#39;t have kids.
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QUOTE(Big Blue 06 #064; Aug 16 2006, 01#58;27 PM) No kids yet, but I#39;d like to beat the everlovin sh1t out of some of these brats you see running around these days. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />My nephew (almost 4 yrs old) is spoiled beyond belief and my sister and BIL don#39;t seem to believe in spanking him... or giving time outs, just giving in to his every demand. He will throw the loudest tantrums until he gets his way and it takes everything in me not to intervene with a good a#036;#036;-whipping#33; (I am his godmother, so this should entitle me to some disciplinary decisions, no?) style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":unsure:" border="0" alt="unsure.gif" />
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QUOTE(Big Blue 06 #064; Aug 16 2006, 08#58;27 PM) No kids yet, but I#39;d like to beat the everlovin sh1t out of some of these brats you see running around these days. style_emoticons/default/madgo.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":mad:" border="0" alt="madgo.gif" />You#39;ve seen jets24#39;s kids?
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QUOTE(Brown Eyed Girl #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;35 PM) My nephew (almost 4 yrs old) is spoiled beyond belief and my sister and BIL don#39;t seem to believe in spanking him... or giving time outs, just giving in to his every demand. He will throw the loudest tantrums until he gets his way and it takes everything in me not to intervene with a good a#036;#036;-whipping#33; (I am his godmother, so this should entitle me to some disciplinary decisions, no?) style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":unsure:" border="0" alt="unsure.gif" />That irritates me to no end. When I was growing up, I wouldn#39;t dare pull anything like that, cuz I knew that my parents would have none of it. As godmother, you are entitled to some disciplining. If you sister or BIL interfere, give them a smack too.
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My Mom was a Child-Abuse investigator for one of the wealthiest school districts in the state when I was growing up. Not some Bullshiit Social-Worker like we have today, she was a full-on RN with a Master#39;s in Education. The files that she would bring home would just sicken me. It proved to me that Child Abuse (don#39;t know wtf I just randomly capitalize things) doesn#39;t just happen with white trash and the poor. Some of the most twisted shiit I#39;ve ever seen in my life - beyond any movie - occured in some of the nicest (which is an anagram for #39;incest#39;) homes in the state. style_emoticons/default/thumbdown.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":thumbsdown:" border="0" alt="thumbdown.gif" />
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QUOTE(Brown Eyed Girl #064; Aug 16 2006, 02#58;35 PM) My nephew (almost 4 yrs old) is spoiled beyond belief and my sister and BIL don#39;t seem to believe in spanking him... or giving time outs, just giving in to his every demand. He will throw the loudest tantrums until he gets his way and it takes everything in me not to intervene with a good a#036;#036;-whipping#33; (I am his godmother, so this should entitle me to some disciplinary decisions, no?) style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":unsure:" border="0" alt="unsure.gif" />The first thing you have to do is learn how to be immune to the crying and tantrums. The best way to make that behavior stop is to stop rewarding it.
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QUOTE(dolfan06 #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;40 PM) The first thing you have to do is learn how to be immune to the crying and tantrums. The best way to make that behavior stop is to stop rewarding it....or hire Andrea Yates as a nanny.
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QUOTE(cmh6476 #064; Aug 16 2006, 02#58;25 PM) still too young for beatings/ spankings to have any influence on behavior.This makes no sense. Also, never hit kids.
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Spank sometimes, slap never. By sometimes, I have 3 kids (5/8/10) and it has happened maybe 6 times this year total. And then it was one swat to get their attention.
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Dad used to slap me upside my head, but nothing on the face, nothing intended to hurt.edit: to think about it, he still does..but I think now its to hurt.
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QUOTE(RicemanX #064; Aug 16 2006, 02#58;18 PM) Dad used to slap me upside my head, but nothing on the face, nothing intended to hurt.edit: to think about it, he still does..but I think now its to hurt.Maybe your dad is a Dodger fan and he is just adding to your pain?
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QUOTE(jerryskids #064; Aug 16 2006, 01#58;20 PM) Maybe your dad is a Dodger fan and he is just adding to your pain?My father taught me to never use the word hate unless I was refering to the nazis or dodgers
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a false choice has been raised here--you don#39;t have to simply let them get away with everything if you choose not to discipline them physically. Persistence, followthrough and rationality are the keys.We#39;ve never hit our kids. They get that scared look when we raise our voices, though (just by the tone, not the content.)
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QUOTE(wiffleball #064; Aug 16 2006, 04#58;39 PM) Not some Bullshiit Social-Worker like we have today, she was a full-on RN with a Master#39;s in Education. style_emoticons/default/thumbdown.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":thumbsdown:" border="0" alt="thumbdown.gif" /> Properly qualified social workers also have their Masters degrees. A LCSW with an MSW usually goes to school longer than an RN with a masters. Most people don#39;t understand the term quot;social workerquot;. They think that any Suzie-caseworker who shows up at the door is a social worker.
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QUOTE(torridjoe #064; Aug 16 2006, 03#58;33 PM) We#39;ve never hit our kids. They get that scared look when we raise our voices, though (just by the tone, not the content.)Yep. If you save the severe tone for when you really mean it they will take it seriously and you#39;ll wind up not havingt to use it as much.
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QUOTE(frank #064; Aug 16 2006, 04#58;07 PM) This makes no sense. Also, never hit kids.she#39;s too young to realize what#39;s she#39;s doing is not acceptable and is too young to realize she is being spanked cause of what#39;s she#39;s doing.
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QUOTE(fricker66 #064; Aug 16 2006, 04#58;34 PM) style_emoticons/default/thumbdown.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":thumbsdown:" border="0" alt="thumbdown.gif" /> Properly qualified social workers also have their Masters degrees. A LCSW with an MSW usually goes to school longer than an RN with a masters. Most people don#39;t understand the term quot;social workerquot;. They think that any Suzie-caseworker who shows up at the door is a social worker.Must be a state-by-state thing then (or as you say, terminology). I#39;ve got a friend who went from crappy cocktail waitress to a caseworker for CPS here in Texas. She#39;s got a BS in social work or gawdawful thing. I#39;d much rather have a trained ER nurse looking at bruises and burns than some BS lib arts major.
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QUOTE(Brown Eyed Girl #064; Aug 16 2006, 02#58;25 PM) I never slapped my son#39;s face, but I never hesitated to spank his bottom when he needed it.Kinky. Can I call you quot;Momquot;?My mother used to use a wooden spoon to paddle me with when I was naughty. Whenever one broke in the process, the replacement costs were deducted from my allowance.The last time my mother ever struck me was circa 1986. I was 13/14. I called her quot;b#33;tchquot;. She caught me with a backhand slap to the mouth. Her largish diamond engagement ring split my lip quite nicely leaving me bloodied.Suffice it to say I gained newfound respect for the woman who birthed me and never called her a b#33;tch again.
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I have three kids 6, 4 and 1. I#39;ve never quot;slappedquot; any of them other than a quick and immediate rap on their butts if they do something that endangers themselves or other children. I want them to remember times of endangerment moreso than if they don#39;t eat their dinner or wise-off to their mom (which rarely happens). I#39;d say that#39;s happened 2 or 3 times with the oldest, 4 or 5 times with #2, and never with #3.
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QUOTE(torridjoe #064; Aug 16 2006, 04#58;33 PM) a false choice has been raised here--you don#39;t have to simply let them get away with everything if you choose not to discipline them physically. Persistence, followthrough and rationality are the keys.We#39;ve never hit our kids. They get that scared look when we raise our voices, though (just by the tone, not the content.)OH NO#33; DADDY#39;S GONNA WHIP OUT THE ENDLESS SOPHISTRY ON US#33; WE#39;LL BEHAVE, WE PROMISE DADDY#33; JUST STFUP PLEASE#33;#33; style_emoticons/default/shocking.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":shocking:" border="0" alt="shocking.gif" /> style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=" "
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QUOTE(wiffleball #064; Aug 16 2006, 05#58;37 PM) Must be a state-by-state thing then (or as you say, terminology). I#39;ve got a friend who went from crappy cocktail waitress to a caseworker for CPS here in Texas. She#39;s got a BS in social work or gawdawful thing. I#39;d much rather have a trained ER nurse looking at bruises and burns than some BS lib arts major.My wife is an LCSW in both NJ and NY. She has a masters in social work from NYU. The program was 2 years and required significant clinical work. The LCSW also required clinical work and an internship. I think you#39;ve confused social worker with caseworker. They should have different meanings. Unfortunately, even TV can#39;t get it right. Suzy TV Character decides she wants to be a social worker and simply applies for the job, gets it, and starts counseling people. It#39;s not that way.Your comment of quot;bullsh#33;t social workerquot; hit a nerve...that#39;s all. |
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